WARNING - Mother's Day Ahead

First of all let me start by saying that I am truly grateful for my own Mama, my mammy is the best lady alive. I adore the bones of her, she is the kindest, most loving, caring, honest and hardworking women I have ever met. Mother's Day is there to celebrate strong, beautiful women like her. 

It is to acknowledge mother's in every form - bio mums, foster mums, adoptive mums, step mums, siblings/aunties who are more like mums, grandmothers, dads who are mums too, mums that are with us and mums that sadly no longer are, mums whose children live in their hearts and any other kind of maternal figure you can think of. This is a good thing and it is right to celebrate these people - they usually deserve it.

I titled this WARNING, like you could possibly have missed it! Mother's Day does seem to have exploded here in the UK this year and there is a reality to the fact that there are millions of us out there that desperately want to be in this club, we are desperate to be 'Mum' or 'Mammy' or 'Mom', we possibly thought that by this Mother's Day we would be, or at least be on the way to it, we maybe have been pregnant, or have tried to be every day since last Mother's Day and still nothing but failed treatment and single line pregnancy tests. Or worse those of you that are Mothers but your babies have got their wings - you're going through a next level kind of hurt and I am so sorry and can only send my love, strength and condolences.

It isn't easy to be the one that is left out, watching from the outside in, the child in the playground that so desperately wants to join in but can't. And it isn't because we want breakfast in bed or the flowers and chocolates. It is because we want all of it, the sleepless nights, the steaming nappies, the kissing better owie's, all the shit bits of motherhood we want just as much as the beautiful bits. The good, the bad and the ugly! Because all of that means we have done it, we have finally become the physical mothers that we have mentally been for so long, we know it won't be plain sailing or easy but we will finally be there after so much loss, heartbreak, uncertainty and pain we get to be Mama.

In the meantime, I know this post won't make your day any easier but maybe this will:

I would like you to plan something for yourself, a little treat, a cheeky doughnut, a lie in, your favourite film or takeaway, a soak in the tub, anything that will make you smile, even if you are rushing around for everyone else take at least half an hour somewhere in the day for you, be proud of everything you've done with your life - big and small, be proud of your bravery in trying to conceive so far, be proud of you and all that you are. Allow yourself that small space of time to be you. Feel what you need to feel, acknowledge how you feel, there's no shame in it, it is perfectly natural to find it hard and soon the day will draw to a close and be gone for another year and you will carry on just as you always have with good days and bad days - this is absolutely ok! 

If you do treat yourself on Sunday tag me in it on Instagram, I would love to see your little treats to yourselves! And whether you treat yourself or not - here's a bunch of flowers from me to you because you're awesome so why not :)